7 Lessons From 7 Years With Psychedelics

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This week: 7 years with Psychedelics, I’m realizing the conversation around Psychedelics is still incomplete.

Seven years ago, I smoked Bufo for the first time. I skipped the entry-level Psychedelics entirely & went straight to complete ego annihilation (do not recommend).

At the time, I thought these substances were going to heal me…what I didn’t realize is they would ultimately change how I experienced reality itself.

These are the 7 most important lessons I’ve learned since.

1. Psychedelics Are Not One Thing

I get a lot of “Well, I did Psychedelics & that didn’t happen.” But when you peel it back, you find out they took a medium dose of Psilocybin once. That’s like putting your feet in the shallow end of a pool & claiming you scuba-dived the Mariana Trench.

Most discourse collapses:

• MDMA
• LSD
• Psilocybin
• DMT
• Bufo
• Ketamine

…into one giant conceptual bucket called “Psychedelics.”

But these experiences differ radically in:

• intensity
• embodiment
• memory effects
• relational impact
• ontology-shock
• nervous system consequences
• aftereffects

I also hear a lot of: “Well, that’s what McKenna said.” Just like religions have their prophets, the Psychedelic world has its go-to figures — Terence McKenna, Alan Watts, Ram Dass, etc.

But all three of those men died before we knew much about neuroplasticity, before the Johns Hopkins studies, when MDMA was still largely viewed as a club drug. Hell, they probably barely knew what Bufo was.

Yes, they were incredibly insightful thinkers. But treating their opinions as definitive truth in 2026 is a bit like asking Columbus about the Artemis program.

2. Awareness Does Not Equal Capacity

This distinction matters more than people realize.

Someone can suddenly become far more aware of their trauma, relationship patterns, childhood wounds, body, emotions or unconscious behaviors…while still lacking the actual capacity to handle life well.

This is one of the biggest misconceptions in modern Psychedelic culture. Insight gets mistaken for transformation. But awareness alone doesn’t automatically make someone:

• calmer
• kinder
• more disciplined
• more honest
• better in relationships
• physically healthier
• emotionally regulated

In some cases, people actually get worse for a period of time:

• more emotionally porous
• more destabilized
• more self-absorbed
• more convinced every feeling contains cosmic significance

Psychedelics can open the door…but opening the door & building a stable life are two completely different skillsets.

At some point I realized rigorous physical training, meditation, good sleep, eating healthy, discipline & learning how to actually function in reality matters more than insight itself.

3. Dreams Became Wild

This one surprised me.

After I started working with high-intensity compounds like 5-MeO, my dreams took on a life of their own:

• Same recurring setting → my childhood home.
• Same cast of characters → people who are or were significant to me.
• Same hyper-realness usually reserved for waking consciousness.

I also started remembering my dreams almost every night, which absolutely was not the case before. And strangely, I’ve shown up in other people’s dreams too. Specifically on nights I was in ceremony...which is beyond fascinating.

Apparently this isn’t uncommon. Pamphlets handed out at Ayahuasca, Changa & Bufo ceremonies often warn that dreams may become unusually vivid, emotionally charged or hyper-realistic in the weeks following the experience.

Whenever someone asks me about Tier 1 Psychedelics, this is one of the first things I mention. Dreams can get very strange…at times, intense.

Important distinction though: I’m not talking about microdosing Psilocybin or doing MDMA with your partner. I’ve rarely heard people report major dream changes from those experiences. I’m talking about the heavier stuff. The compounds that reach deep into memory, symbolism, emotion & subconscious patterning themselves.

4. Most People Understand Psychedelics Through the Wrong Lens

Most people encounter Psychedelics through the healing narrative.

The therapeutic framing:

• Ketamine for depression.
• Psilocybin for disconnection.
• MDMA for trauma.
• Ibogaine for PTSD.

Now to be clear…these substances absolutely can help people heal. But what many fail to realize is that the healing narrative is largely a modern Western framing layered on top of compounds with a much stranger, more complex & often far more sordid history.

Also…the healing lens is a relatively narrow use case.

The second dominant framing is the opposite extreme:

• Parties
• Festivals
• Raves
• Clubs

Which wastes a huge amount of what these substances are actually capable of. The look on women’s faces when I tell them the best way, honestly maybe the only way, to experience MDMA is at home with your partner, candles lit, EDM playlist on, phones away, is sheer confusion.

Which is unfortunate.

Because instead of using these substances to deepen connection, people are wasting the experience in crowded clubs, standing in 40-minute bathroom lines, in the back of Ubers or absorbing the chaotic energy of strangers they wouldn’t even make eye contact with sober.

The real value of these substances is not healing or escape. It’s perception:

• More presence with your partner.
• More emotionally available with your friends.
• A way to observe your own consciousness.
• To replace alcohol so conversations become deeper instead of numbed-out & repetitive.

Used correctly, Psychedelics don’t just change how you feel…they change what you notice.

5. Relationships Change

I suspect this is the part of the story that doesn’t get the attention it deserves. MDMA, Psilocybin & LSD are rewiring relationships.

Something unmistakable happens when couples start working with these substances. The ones with a solid foundation often become closer, more empathetic, more affectionate & genuinely more enjoyable to be around.

But there’s another side to it too.

Psychedelics heighten awareness, and with that comes increased discernment. People start noticing relational dynamics they had previously ignored or tolerated:

• emotional distance
• performative intimacy
• attraction that feels forced
• conversations that never actually go anywhere

In many cases, relationships don’t fail because Psychedelics “changed” someone. They fail because one or both people can no longer ignore what was already there.

One partner starts growing faster. One becomes more emotionally open while the other becomes defensive. Some people become less willing to perform compatibility just to preserve stability.

Sometimes this strengthens relationships through honesty & intimacy. Other times, it creates distance because something intuitively no longer feels right.

6. You Start Seeing the Hidden Structures Under People

At first Psychedelics made me feel more connected to people. But over time, they also made me notice how much of social life is unconscious performance:

• Small talk at parties.
• Corporate speak at company events.
• Aggressively therapeutic language on first dates.

After enough experiences, certain interactions start feeling strangely rehearsed. You begin noticing status games, identity performances, social scripts…people trying very hard to appear self-aware instead of simply being present.

Ironically, Psychedelics can make you crave genuine connection more than ever…while also making it harder to tolerate interactions that feel artificial.

7. Psychedelics Changed How I Experience Reality Itself

More than anything, Psychedelics changed what I notice:

• Sunsets feel slower now.
• Music feels more immersive.
• Certain conversations feel strangely alive.
• Cities have started revealing psychological atmospheres to me.
• Bars feel performative.
• Forced social interactions feel anxious.
• I notice when someone genuinely wants to be somewhere with me.
• Gratitude hits harder in ordinary moments now.

I also started noticing how attention shapes reality itself. What we repeatedly look at eventually becomes our world. Doomscrolling, outrage, algorithms, stress, status games…most modern people are bathing their nervous systems in psychic pollution for hours a day without realizing it.

Psychedelics didn’t make reality less real for me…they made it feel more vivid.

Seven years later, I don’t think Psychedelics are magic. I don’t think they heal everyone, I don’t think they automatically make people wiser, and I don’t think they optimize your life.

But I do think they changed how I experience being alive.

And for certain archetypes who have endured traumatic loss, struggle with happiness, deal with anxiety or depression, or simply want a more meaningful way to connect with themselves, others or reality itself, these tools can be a godsend.